Tuesday, October 09, 2007

i finally met up with teresa to catch up on good old times. she's one of my amazing friends that i can hold conversations for hours to talk about random stuffs and most of the common topic is basically about, people. i admire her on how she thinks rationally and view everything objectively.

so, tell me, if someone is insensitive, highly tactless and do not think of the consequences before they talk due their selfish means, what do we do? seriously, we can't do anything about it. really. despite countless confrontations, empty promises and manymany sticky situations, it pretty much doesn't change that much afterall. then what do you do if you are confronted with this kind of situations? breatheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. by all means, breatheeeeeeeeeeeeeee and tell youself, "he/she is just being himself/herself " obviously i have been there and done that many times, and seriously, i suck at handling it initially, and maybe up till today. i will be like "OHHH MYYY GODDDD WHAT DID SHE SAY????? DOES SHE EVEN KNOW WHAT SHE'S TALKING ABOUT?" and there goes the cycle of paranoia again of blaming myself and really, thinking too much of what i should have said or should have not said.

i hate being in that situation, but due to many past experiences, i have learned. i have learned to listen selectively, i have learned to self-console myself by constantly reminding myself that "she is just like that", everyone is different & not to be affected by it as much, i have learned that subconsciously, you might be doing the same thing to someone else and most importantly, i have learned to think and say appropriately eventhough it means disagreeing to the other person. it doesn't take a rocket scientist to be a little bit more sensitive and take some time to think before we start talking. my two tuition kids and my coaching kids have proved me right and at the age of around 9 and 1o. you will be amazed at how their little acts of sensitivity can be really heart-warming. but then, we are humans, we tend to err and possess 1001 feelings. so, thank you wazzy,su and you-sssssss-know-who-you-are- for always being there for me at the most randomest time in the most randomest place to rant on the most randomest thing. needless to say, i love you guys to atoms:)

okay, so i needed that to get it out of my system. but then again, though we want the picture to be painted perfectly, things may go otherwise. there's only so much we can do and the rest it's up to fate. -shrugs- hope for the very best then and at the same time, prepare for the ultimate worst. we all can try:)

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